I only post my heartaches so Joel can get a laugh and everyone else that may come into a similar problem can see what to expect or hopefully learn from my mistakes.
Anxious to get her back in the water beforethis upcoming big weekend I decided to remove the coupler, hope for the shaft to be good, and find another coupler fast.
Reality- set screws in coupler not budging. After about $100 worth of bits (cobalt, titanium and who knows what), penetrating oil...sledgehammer, no dice. Not to mention about 10hrs of time.
Reverted back to Ron's recommendation (since he told me what would happen and I'm hard headed sometimes), ordered shaft and coupling, strur bearing, packing... and some decals of course.
10 hrs drilling, no set screws out. 25min with new Sawzall- shaft cut, shaft box out, rudder out, coupling off (slung it as far as I could, guess I should go get it out of my neighbors yard)... A few pix and then a few questions on next post.